I'll admittedly throw out two things firsthand. First, I had skimmed through babywise when Bryton was little because our lives were so awful for the first several months. I never got deep into it with him, because nothing worked. He was just collicky and difficult. Period.
So whether naive or whatever, I didn't even know that naps were supposed to last longer than 45 minutes. And to be honest, I didn't even know I really needed to initiate naps until probably 3 months in. So I can't tell you if we ever fought this with Bryton or not. It was never a conscious thought in my mind.
The second thing: we are not completely 'babywise.' We follow the babywise eat, play, sleep formula, and we are recognizing the 45 minute intruder currently. My goal is ultimately for Ansley to be able to self soothe herself, and in the past three days I've been able to put her down for her naps and her put herself to sleep with minimal crying. (I let her cry for about five minutes, go in, put the paci in, tell her I love her and to sleep good. She stops crying until the paci falls out, then starts again, but not as hard, and has herself asleep within about 5 more minutes. It's between 10 or 12 minutes each time. Not easy, but tolerable.) Then, almost like clockwork, she's awake at the 45 minute mark... almost on the dot.
We aren't on a consistent 3, 6, 9, 12 routine for eating or anything, I'm more following her cues, but they are reallllly consistent and go about every 3 hours, except for this dumb 45 minute intruder. (Which she has become really consistent with anyway.)
So here are my questions moms: (babywise or not... I just need suggestions)
- How do I beat this dumb thing? I've tried moving her naps up so she doesn't get over tired. And I don't know what to do when she cries. I mean, do I go in and try to rock her back or bounce her back to sleep? Doesn't that defeat the purpose of me putting her down and putting herself out? I've tried letting her put herself back out, and she'll just lie there for a little bit, and she's in and out a few times, but never out very long... and after about 30 minutes of light off and on crying I've finally gave up and went in to get her. Is it possible several 45 minute naps are what she needs right now? Because I don't think I can handle that :(
- Tell me the crying herself out eventually gets better. Granted, it's not for very long and it's not very hard for very long, but it goes against everything in my nature to listen to her cry. BUT, I've noticed that she goes to sleep faster and easier if she cries herself out than us having to bounce and rock her, because as soon as we put her down she wakes up and it has to start all over for her. So this is good for her right?
- And this one is a doozy: The past two nights have been impossible for nighttime. Maybe it is just so frustrating for me because naptime feels like such a failure all day and nighttime sleep has always been so easy. (Not to mention the fact that I'm exhausted by this point in the day anyway.) But the one time we don't do the eat, play, sleep routine is right before bed. She's never taken a good nap before bedtime so she gets tired at about 6:35 every night. (Again, almost on the dot.) I've tried moving her bedtime later, but everything I've tried has failed. That's just when she gets tired. We can usually make it to about 7 before we have her swaddled and start feeding her. NORMALLY, we feed her and put her down and we may have to get her up one time, not long after she goes down, to finish the bottle and we put her down and she's out for the night. (Sometimes she gets up around 4:30 or 5 to eat... other times she makes it until 6 or after and I put her on my stomach for another hour or so to get her to what I'd eventually want to be her wake up time). The past two nights, however, it's been a train wreck trying to get her down. We'll feed her, put her down, and she's up a good 5 or 6 times again after that. Then it's trying everything to get her to sleep... letting her cry, putting in a paci, bouncing, patting, feeding, you name it. I feel like all of the sleep training falls apart in the evening now. It's taken 2 hours the past two nights to completely get her out for good. It stresses me out (as this is my chill time of the day) and exhausts me to the point of tears. I'm thankful that she sleeps so well once she is finally asleep, but seriously, something has to give with her going down routine.
So ugh - there's my rant / vent/ plea for help. Moms who have been there, comment and let me know how you fixed this. PLEASE!
On a lighter note: I had to share the bare basics of my most recent Kroger trip. Another mega event week, we needed a good stock up after having to completely gut our refrigerator / freezer a few weeks ago since all of our food went bad in the power outage (grrrrrrr, 20 bags of stockpiled frozen vegetables... GONE... the only solace was knowing how inexpensively I bought them for to begin with). Anyway, I spent $92 and saved $99. Just over 50% savings, but the food I bought is enough to feed our family for the next three weeks (minus things that go bad or run out like bread and fruit). AND, included in that $92 was Lysol wipes (I actually ran out of something, baby bathing supplies (which I got great deals on), paper towels (Bounty, I'm to the point of wanting the good ones, the cheap ones stink) and toilet paper (Charmin, ditto the paper towel comment). I also bought a large bag of chicken and lots of stockpile items including bbq sauce, Miracle Whip, vegetables for our freezer, over $10 worth of fruit, soup, etc. My greatest deal, however, was on Ronzoni pasta. It is my pasta of choice anyway, because we eat the whole wheat or smart taste (also healthy) and now the healthy harvest. I'll just put it this way... I bought twelve boxes of pasta and they paid me to take it home. Here's how:
I went here and printed the coupons for all of the pasta except the quick cook (I know our Kroger doesn't keep that kind). Remember to hit your browsers back button to print the coupons twice! With the mega event that is going on these boxes of pasta come to .49 each, meaning that your $1 off of 2 coupons end up paying you .01 for each box of pasta you buy. I bought twelve so I had .12 of overage to use on other groceries! And this pasta stays good for a long time. It won't expire before I use it all, and I probably won't have to buy pasta for the rest of the year.
I ended up buying 30 mega event items, saving $15 in my order. I saved $64 with my Kroger plus card, another $30 with coupons and the rest was in bonus coupons savings. AND I received $3 off my next order! Woo hoo!
So there you go - and I have 3 minutes left before more than likely, the intruder will be back... I'm already exhausted, just thinking about it... *sigh*. Help moms!